Dearest, it’s never too late for repair, because—as both physicists and healers know—time is nonlinear: past, present, and future are happening simultaneously, everything everywhere all at once. When I feel into the healing possibilities of nonlinear time, I think about how my reiki teacher’s teacher says she survived (survives) her childhood trauma because of all the […]
What’s really happening when you’re hard on yourself?
Hello, dear one! Have you ever wondered why you’re hard on yourself when you most need compassion? The truth is, we learn how to treat ourselves by the way we’re treated in our early experiences. This is an unconscious developmental process that shapes our brain and nervous system. By the time you were four […]
What does it mean to “transform domination culture from the inside out”?
Twelve years ago this week, I made my first Restorative Empathy public offering. I had no idea I was stepping across a threshold into the most meaningful, joyful, connecting work of my life. From the start, the Restorative Empathy tagline has been: “Transforming Domination Culture from the Inside Out,” because patriarchy, white supremacy culture, capitalism, […]
Where can I help you get unstuck?
Dear one, have you been feeling stuck lately? —Are there painful memories or thoughts looping in your head, hurting you over and over? —Do parts of your life get consistently neglected because it hurts to turn toward them? —Are repeating relational patterns wearing you down? —Do your biggest dreams keep getting back-burnered? If yes, I have […]
What would your life be like if you were loved everywhere it still hurts?
Trauma is like sedimentary rock—a mixture of unheld harms, losses, devastations, violence, neglect, disappointments, and aloneness that in the absence of warm loving accompaniment can harden and become the conscious and unconscious foundation for your life. Healing comes with warm welcome and loving accompaniment that soothe the parts of you who still hurt—whether that hurt lives in […]